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10 Sign He's Just Not That Into You

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Jen Kirsch

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March 19, 2014

We have a funny way of popping on a pair of rosy shaded glasses as soon as we fall for a fella of our fancy. With this outlook, we tend to overlook the reality of the situation, even when all the signs are there.

If you have any uncertainty, we’re here to help you see things for what they are. Here are 10 tell-tale signs that he’s just not that into you.

1. He never sees you in person

Sure, he might say all the right things in email and text, and sure he might write back to you immediately, but this doesn’t mean he digs you; it means he’s either being polite or enjoys your attention. If he’s into you he’s making plans to see you. No matter how busy one is, if they want someone, they make the time to see them.

2. He won’t friend you on Facebook

If you’re dating, hooking up or the like and he won’t add you on Facebook, chances are he has something to hide or is scared you’re going to mark your territory and ruin his chances with other ladies. If he’s into you, he’d be proud to – not only share his life with you – but want to indulge in keeping tabs on you and your happenings as well.

3. He refuses to take pictures with you

This is a big warning sign that could indicate that he has something to hide. He could be courting a number of women, while talking to you as well. Whether he’s a private person or not, if he feels the need to hide you, beware.

4. He never offers to pay

Men equate money with an investment. If he’s never footing the bill or you are constantly splitting things 50/50, chances are he doesn’t think you’re worth any investment.

Men equate money with an investment. If he’s never footing the bill or you are constantly splitting things 50/50, chances are he doesn’t think you’re worth any investment.

5. You don’t hear from him for days at a time

There are few things as daunting as waiting. These days, we’re all so accessible, thanks to social media, Skype and the like. Furthermore, most of us have our phones either in our hands or by our sides all day long. 

6. He only responds to your texts and emails with one-word answers

Are you constantly initiating conversations? Are you texting him and checking in only to get one word responses? Don’t confuse his response as interest. He might just be responding so you don’t back-talk him. After all, it’s better to be pleasant. But if he’s not inquiring about you, he could likely care less.

7. He doesn’t include you in his plans

A smitten gent will want to show you off to his buddies and family. If he’s going out and attending things – especially where other people have their other halves with them – and you’re not invited along, he likely is just having fun with you and doesn’t see a future.

8. He won’t commit to making any plans with you

If you’re asking him to join you for an event, to get together, or if you can see each other late nights and he’s unwilling to make any commitments, beware. He’s likely looking for a better option and stringing you along in case one doesn’t come up. You deserve to be someone’s priority, not just an option.

9. He doesn’t keep his word

If he’s constantly breaking plans, letting you down and not keeping his word, chances are he doesn’t care about your feelings. A guy who does this puts himself first. When someone is into you, they do everything and anything to ensure you’re happy; to ensure you don’t get away.

10. Your friends are all telling you he’s bad news

Since we don’t see things clearly when our heart (and self-esteem) is involved, be attentive to what your friends and family are telling you about the situation. You might think that they just don’t get it, or you might tell yourself that they don’t know the real him, but if those closest to you – who care about you – are all telling you the same thing, there is likely truth there.


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