Tips for Dating Mr. Big

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Dating Mr. Big: Sex and the City Relationship Tips

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Jen Kirsch

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July 31, 2014

Are you dating a Mr. Big? Here's how you know if your guy is this type, and the relationship tips you should keep in mind for dating this direct and driven man.

He’s a Mr. Big if the below characteristics describe him to a tee:

-    powerhouse
-    work horse
-    has expensive taste
-    challenging
-    charming
-    dominant
-    cares about fashion
-    independent
-    likes nights out

Key tips if you’re dating this type:

1. Don’t push or nag

The more you push someone for something, the more you push them away. Make your wants known, then give him space and time for him to give you what you need. Pressuring him to get your way will make him less likely to do just that.

Hone in on your patience and accept that this kind of guy will eventually follow through, but will do so according to his own timeline and comfort zone. Same goes for nagging, which won’t bode well with this type. Again, you can tell him that something bothers you, but being passive-aggressive or putting him down/name-calling will make you come off as immature and is a tactic that won’t get you anywhere.

The second you question yourself for not being good enough, you’ll end up spending way too much time analyzing the situation, as opposed to taking it for what it is.

2. Don’t take things personally

The Mr. Big type may come off as harsh or offensive and you must realize that this has to do with him having a strong personality and has nothing to do with you.

You will never survive in this relationship if you take his abruptness or over-honesty to heart. It comes down to you having to accept who he is and how he goes about things.

The second you question yourself for not being good enough (or whatever it is), you’ll end up driving yourself crazy and spending way too much time analyzing the situation as opposed to taking it for what it is.

3.    Let him take charge

This guy feasts in the deliciousness that is making reservations at fancy restos, picking up a bottle of the latest wine, getting tickets for the theatre, or even spoiling you with gifts. Let him take the lead, as opposed to filling out his social calendar and surprising him with a night out.

By allowing him to take the lead, he can continue to seep up that powerful, in charge feeling that he thrives off of. To one up this whole dynamic, be sure to share your enjoyment and pleasure by acknowledging the fact that he got you into the city’s most hard-to-get-into restaurant, or spoiled you with that pair of earrings you’ve been eyeing for – what seems like – ever.


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