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5 Things to Know About Dating a Younger Guy

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Jen Kirsch

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November 22, 2013

Many women are allured by the idea of dating a younger guy. A younger guy can make you feel more attractive, like you’ve ‘still got it,’ and will likely be more playful than what you’re used to. Many A-list celebs have made dating a younger guy more appealing and more accepting in today’s world, but despite the good and the fun with a younger guy, there are also some inevitable downfalls.

There are always expectations to the rule, but generally, this is what you’ll have in store:

You’re not on the same page
His priorities are likely different than yours. Younger men aren’t as willing to commit to something serious. Yes, they’re fun to be around and if something light, fun and easy is something you’re looking for, then by all means take on a younger lover, but if you are looking to develop a strong, serious relationship, a younger guy might not be on the same page. Have a discussion sooner rather than later, to ensure you don’t get hurt down the road when your feelings are invested.

He hasn’t seen what you’ve seen
Since he hasn’t been through the experiences you have, such as having kids, being divorced, widowed, etc., it will be challenging for him to relate. Sure, he likely has less baggage, which is refreshing, but it also creates an emotional gap and distance. In relationships you need to be able to lean on your partner in your darkest moments, and a younger guy lacks the same tools and experiences to relate and be there for you in the way you might need.

The gent you landed saw something fabulous and attractive about you and your personality, which is how you landed him in the first place, so don’t allow yourself to buy into your thoughts that you need to change for him. 

He might feel inadequate
With age comes maturity, so the story goes. Beware of someone who see’s your accomplishments as a threat. The guy who feels inadequate will make comments about your age, or might even make condescending comments like calling you ‘granny,’ or something of the sort. This shows a guy who can’t handle the amazingness that is you. Sure, there is an age gap, but if you both decide to date despite that, it shouldn’t constantly come up in conversation.

He has less time for you
Sure you’re the one with the intense job and the house full of kids, but he likely has a busy social life with lots on the go. Whether it be him wanting to go away for a boys week, or wanting to blow off steam mid-week on a drunken boys night out, he won’t be as available to you as you might hope.

You think you need to change for him
The gent you landed saw something fabulous and attractive about you and your personality, which is how you landed him in the first place, so don’t allow yourself to buy into your thoughts that you need to change for him. When you start dressing ‘younger’ and more trendy, when you start trying to party hard and constantly be there when he texts you late nights, you will actually push him away. Be the you he was attracted to in the first place. Change should only be a result of growth.

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