Sue's Sex FAQ

AVagina Size

Sex FAQs provided by Sue Johanson of the Sunday Night Sex Show.

Q. I am a 63-year-old female who has just begun a sexual relationship with a 55-year-old man. I am concerned that my vagina may be out of shape to give him the amount of contact to be satisfying for him. I have started Kegel exercises but is there a surgery that might tighten things up a bit?

A. Kegel exercises, when done regularly, are amazingly successful. Every time you sit on the "john" to pee, stop, start, stop and start. Might take you an hour to pee, but it works. Doing them in the car at every stop light, when doing the dishes, wherever…

I would not even consider surgery. Every time they make an incision, they cut nerves - who wants a numb vagina?

Let's be very honest here, a 55-year-old man will not have the same rigid erections as he had when he was 15, and his erections will wax and wane then come back again. That has absolutely nothing to do with your vagina. It is called age. Sorry about that.

What you can do is make an appointment with your friendly supportive family doctor. Do not be embarrassed to talk about your concerns. Ask for an ESTROGEN cream, applied to your genitals twice a day would help restore your vaginal moisture and make the walls more pliable.

As women age, our estrogen production drops dramatically. The vagina walls thin out, become dry and vulnerable to tears and infections and you produce less lubrication. This ESTROGEN cream will definitely help restore the walls to their younger condition.

Do pick up the book, THE NEW LOVE AND SEX AFTER 60. After you have read it, do talk to your new partner about your concerns. He will understand and in all probability, he will be glad you did because he probably has some concerns of his own.

Q. Sex with my girlfriend is no longer pleasurable. She seems a lot looser. I find myself masturbating a lot more.

A. Has she had a baby? The vagina on a female who has never had a baby does not become sloppy and loose with repetitive sex. It really does not. It is only after the delivery of a baby with big shoulders and a big head and the vagina stretches and never quite goes back to normal again. Have you talked to her about this? I would recommend Kegel exercises for her. If she does those exercises it will help her tighten up. If she is not lubricated it means she is not stimulated and turned on. Get a really good book on sex and go back and learn as much as you possibly can about sex, so learn how to: pleasure your partner, talk to your partner, please your partner and how to bring her to orgasm. Then you can enjoy it more.

Q. I saw a commercial for plus size-sanitary napkins. Is this necessary? Does that mean she has a bigger vagina?

A. I love people who watch commercials and have enough media smarts to say that is the biggest crock I have heard in two years. If a woman is a larger size the uterus may be a little larger but not that much larger. She is not going to have that much menstrual flow and her genitals are not that much bigger. The space between her legs where the sanitary napkin would go is not large enough to drive a train through. It is an advertising ploy. You change your pad every four hours anyway.

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