Sue's Sex FAQ
Sex Education
Sex FAQs provided by Sue Johanson of the Sunday Night Sex Show.
Q. I have two children ages two and four. They are starting to ask questions about sex, stuff they see on TV, little things they hear in day care and from their little friends. They are curious about their own bodies and why don't little girls have a "weenie?"
A. What a wonderful question. I am so glad you asked about kids and early information about sex and sexuality. You cannot wrap your kids in cotton batten and protect them from all things sexual, so it is easier to deal with it as you go along.
In actuality, you are talking sex to your kids without even being aware of it. They way you react if they barge into your bedroom when you are dressing, how you react when your kids ask questions about their genitals, when they play with their genitals, or even when they "play doctor."
What pleases me is that your son felt comfortable enough to ask why girls don't have a "weenie?" This is a perfect opportunity to make sure your son has proper terminology for body parts. A nose is a nose, not a snoz, so a weenie is a penis. Little boys have a penis and it is a beautiful thing. He urinates through it, it feels good to touch it, it sits right up when he touches it, and when he is really grown up and ready to be a parent, his penis will be used to get his partner pregnant. Big words for a little guy but he will soon learn what it means to have a baby.
This is a good time to tell him that his penis is a private part of his body and nobody has any right to touch it in any way, unless Mommy or Daddy is giving him a bath.
Little girls don't need a penis, they have a special opening for a baby, it is called a vagina, and hers is private too.
Please know, you can't give your kid too much information at one time, they will roll their eyes and want to go out and play. But please know, the next time he has a question, he will come back to you because you are approachable - you don't laugh or delay answering. If you don't know the answer, say so, tell him/her, you will find out, and you will get back to him as soon as possible, and do it.
Go to the library and borrow the book, "Where Do I Come From" by Peter Mayle, published by Lyle Stuart. It also comes as a video. Another fantastic book is Questions Kids Ask & How to Answer Them" by Dr. Miriam Stoppard, published by Random House.
Relax mom, you are giving your kids good survival skills.
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