Sue's Sex FAQ

Male Ejaculate

Sex FAQs provided by Sue Johanson of the Sunday Night Sex Show.

Q. My boyfriend ejaculated in my ear and I tried to rinse it out but now I can't hear. Could this possibly cause permanent damage?

A. Ejaculate is goopy stuff but it is not like earwax. Have a bath in the tub. Lie down perfectly flat and rinse your hair and your ear in the water. You are not going to go deaf or have an infection. Relax and have a nice luxury bubble bath. You will not be hearing impaired. More important, how do you feel about your boyfriend ejaculating in your ear?

Q. When my boyfriend ejaculates he doesn't shoot, it dribbles. Is this normal?

A. Then that's the way he is. It's not you. Ejaculate is ejaculate. If you want to get pregnant, whether he shoots two feet or dribbles, it doesn't matter. If he's never had a forceful ejaculation then he won't know what he is missing. It still feels good. I wouldn't say it's a problem and you can still get pregnant. Other than the male ego there is no problem there. Reassure him. The vagina is a dead-end street and only 4-5 inches long, so what's the sense or being able to shoot across the room?

Q. When a guy doesn't ejaculate does he get sore?

A. It's true. Slang terminology, they are called, "blue balls" or "lovers nuts." His testicles get sore, get swollen and take on a bluish hue. When a guy is horny, there is a dramatic increase in blood flow to his genitals and if he does not ejaculate, some of that blood stays there. It is very uncomfortable. He needs to get home and masturbate and ejaculate. Then he is fine.

Q. When men ejaculate are they having an orgasm? Is it the same for women?

A. No. Normally, when a male is horny, he will have an erection, lubricate then ejaculate. That was ejaculation, not an orgasm. When everything is perfect and there is romantic ambiance and he has an enthusiastic sex partner, sex will be exquisite, over the top, ten on the Richter scale. That was an orgasm. It's much more intense than just ejaculation. Ejaculation makes you tired. An orgasm is over the top and you can tell the difference as a partner. Females can have one or more orgasms. If she is really hot and on a roll, she may suddenly have a strong urge to push down and have a G spot orgasm. She may expel a large amount of clear fluid from her urethra (pee hole). That is spectacular.

Q. After I pulled my muscle I have had a problem maintaining an erection and ejaculating. Is it connected at all?

A. I haven't got a clue. What muscle did you pull, because your penis is not a muscle or a bone? So pulling a muscle in your upper thigh should not affect your ability to have and maintain an erection long enough for great sex. Go to your family doctor to find out what has happened.

Q. Can I be allergic to my husband's sperm? Every time we have sex I get an irritable rash for 3-4 days.

A. To find out if you are allergic to your husband's ejaculate, ask him to use a condom. Take an ordinary condom and wash it to get all the lubrication off and pat it with a towel and roll it on his penis. Or, you could go to the drug store and pick up a female condom and you try that one. Female condoms are plastic. You could be allergic to your husband so you have to see if you still get the rash when his ejaculate is contained inside the condom. You may have to find a way to use condoms all the time if that is the case. Actually though, very few women are truly allergic to their partner's ejaculate.

Q. Does frequent intercourse weaken a man's sperm?

A. Not at all. If you are having it three times a day every day that might reduce his sperm count. But normally there are lots and lots of sperm. They normally are stored in the testicles and stay there for about two weeks. If they are not ejaculated they break down, disintegrate and are absorbed by the body and more are produced all the time. He is not going to be shooting blanks. There are enough there to repopulate the whole world; don't worry.

Q. Past girlfriends have complained how I taste when they are giving me oral sex. How can I make my ejaculate taste better?

A. There are pills available called Sweet Succretions. They come from the states and you can't buy them in a health food store. You have to send for them and they cost a dollar a day. You take one pill a day. I looked at the chemical composition and there is nothing in there that would be harmful. Our testers try them out to see if their ejaculate has changed taste and it has.

If you eat meat is it salty, sour and bitter and tastes burned. If you are pure vegetarian your ejaculation is sweeter.

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